I'm supposed to be writing about something of value to the society as a whole, may it be for Cavitenas, Pinays in general or girls of any nationality. But I just have to work on this topic. You see, my mind works in a very unusual way. There are days when I just wake up and I just knew the answers to some of the problems I have. For this one, I was about to sleep when a somewhat interesting description of flirting pops in my head. Pretty weird but no joke.
I'm again not an expert especially on this matter,you (I) wish! But I am very observant. I've got loads of friends from different walks of life. I am a movie addict and so I guess I have quite a good source of reference for this particular topic.
"Flirting is subtle seduction without taking your clothes off. Flirting is a play at love, beguiling those who were first timers in this venture. This is absolutely not so much of an explicit language of love, just mere play and fun. This one, it happens in public, that is why it is also subtle. Subtle seduction by the way you talk, you act, you eat and sip drinks, slow flipping of hair and the way you smile and giggle in front of someone you like."
These are acts that I noticed from a female's perspective. Im quite perplexed with how guys flirt. I'm not really sure but I guess they simply assume that he's you guy, and you're his girl. The way he makes extra effort to show sweetness and affection even protect you from other guys. Chickboys don't use pick up lines. They are a natural, born with the gift of pleasing girls.
You primarily flirt with the guy/girl you like and see if he/she is flirting you back. If he/she is not flirting wit you, better stop or move on to your next prospect. And if there are two girls flirting with the same guy, you'll eventually feel the deep-seated animosity between them. Competition as per se.
It becomes ambiguous when someone is a natural charmer. I want to be clear on this. People who flirt looks charming. When someone appeals to be charming, it does not necessarily mean they are flirting. Its again, another gift, for me a manifestation of kindness glowing from within. Most of the charming people I know of are the kindest ones I've met. But if there are true charmers, be aware that there are pretentious charmers as well.
Have you watched Memoirs of Geisha? That movie exactly portrays seduction. You remember the scenes when geishas were taught how to dance GRACEFULLY (you know how hard it is to dance gracefully? I dance but its really hard for me to look and dance seductively for some sexy hiphop dances), how to ARTISTICALLY lift teapots and pour teas, how they magnetically stare with captivating smile? It takes grace and artistic acts for them to seduce their clients. Flirting is just a contemporary version of all this acts.
SLOW ACTION also does the trick. You know in movies when girls dance with slow music, whisper with soft voice, slowly crawling on the bed, slowly undressing? Of course all of this are for pure seduction but when I said SLOW, I meant prim and proper action of girls who are flirting. The very term "Maria Clara" applies. How funny but it's somewhat true right?
When girls are flirting, they always give their sweetest smiles and act as if everyone's watching them. Like what I said, prim and proper as Maria Clara. Some even go to the extent of flippin their hair constantly, with their perfume being sprayed on it too. I encountered some of the girls doing it, "Why on earth would you put and waste your perfume on your hair when you already used shampoo and conditioner?" Preposterous!
I am not judgmental, and I'm not saying everyone's doing it for this reason alone, some may have mannerisms with their hair or something, its just what I've found out upon meeting other girls with different backgrounds.
Word choice. You know how obvious it is when you know someone who talks very rudely with their peers or how they used to have their "palengkera voice and choice of words" and suddenly changed into a very cute girl? Bullshit and fuck turned into, "Oh" with matching biting of the lower lip, then shrugs, and sweetly says "Never mind" and then smiles. What a transition!
Smile and giggle. Someone who's flirting looks like as if they were intoxicated with love drug. They try to smile a lot, giving a vibe that they enjoy each other's company. Girls giggle with petty jokes and sweet nothings. Guys smile with ears flapping.
Extra Attention to a Girl though you're in a Group. If you are not flirting him back, you might exclaim, "Tayo ba?" But nonetheless, you will just nonchallantly ackowledge him for the mere fact that you're in a group of friends. For them, its to show the sweet and affectionate side of them, implying that they like you. But from an outside perspective, "It's their traditional trademark move". And when guy friends see that, guys give the two space for the "guy flirt" to fully hit on the girl.
FASHION. As much as possible I don't wanna touch on this area. I've got model friends, been a model myself for quite a while, so I respect their sense of style no matter where they're going. But there really are days when you see a group of teenagers strolling the mall, just finished watching a movie with their friends, and you just wanna say something like, "San ka punta teh?" Same thing applies with those who wear full pact make up on broad daylight.
So flirting is SEDUCTION without taking your clothes off. You entice someone to like you. Its not really giving motives, its just the way it is for this generation of new millenium.
It is ok to flirt, I'm guilty for the times I'm bored, but don't expect a real relationship from this, unless ofcourse you both agree to move up to the next level. And for sure you know that flirting is just for fun. Its just that, be mindful if you're getting over your usual self.
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